motion: a way to unstick yourself

a letter to you about unsticking yourself, and a longer conversation about so much more.

Dear You,

I spent some time sharing interesting parts of my journey and thoughts with Kennedy Ekezie on his limitless series. One part that stood out was around being stuck and how I unstick myself. The only way to unstick yourself is to be in motion. You can wait for opportunities to come, or you can build your own opportunities and create your own luck. You're more likely to be lucky when you make an effort than when you hide in a hole.

Challenge yourself: If I could change one thing I've been complaining about in the last week, what would it be? What one step can I take repeatedly? The little things we do just by showing up create ripple effects and help dig you out of the hole you feel stuck in, one rung at a time.

You never know how those tiny actions will come back to serve you. Don't just say "I am stuck" and wallow in it. Accept that you're stuck, but you're ready to change that, and make a move. Physically make a move. Change something: your environment, your thoughts, your company, something... you just need to look at things from a fresh perspective.

It's the difference between being sad about being stuck in traffic for an hour versus reframing it to "Yay! I have one hour to catch up on my favorite book or podcast." It's seeing a missed bus not as a failure but as an opportunity to discover a new route you never previously considered.

Shift your perspective. Assess the situation from another point of view. Acknowledge your feelings, but separate your actions from your feelings. Ask yourself: What would matter in a year? What do I want to be true by this time next year? What little action can I take today to bring me closer to that dream? Take it! Take that action.

Yes, you may not have had control over getting stuck, but you definitely have control over choosing to stay stuck. The one way to unstick yourself is MOTION.

Listen to me say it to you here:

With Love,

Blessing Abeng..